People sometimes come to a mediumship session with me not knowing what to expect. Often part way through they have accepted that spirit is talking to them, but now they are getting antsy and they may want to know for SURE that the spirit sending them messages through me is the spirit they think it is and want it to be. This can happen either when the message is very general or at times when the information I’m getting doesn’t match up with their image of the person or with something a holy person, psychic, or another medium has told them.
They come wanting contact but they may also want names, dates, details – want me to relay something that no-one else would know besides themselves and that person.
And the fact is that sometimes that information does get passed on to me. And sometimes it does not. And if clients have a need for reassurance… all I can do is continue to offer them what I am getting from the connection with spirit. I let them know that I have no reason to doubt this spirit is who it says it is, especially if there is no negativity or mischievous behavior associated with it. However, I find that this type of question can leave me floundering a bit, and can even somewhat pull me out of trance. When asked “what is the person’s favorite flower,” for example, I might tense up an ‘only’ get the first letter and general sound instead of the whole word, and so end up thinking ‘poppy’ instead of ‘peony.’ It is such a subtle art and sometimes it isn’t as clear as ringing someone up on the cell phone!
In cases where the client is startled by information that is contradictory to what they have been told by someone else, or doesn’t seem like their memory of the person, I have to work hard to make sure I am clear about what the message is and perhaps some back and forth communication is necessary in order to clarify. For example if a spirit seems chaotic, and it has only been a short while since they have passed, then this state of confusion can be unsettling for the family to hear about. Especially if the person was always very calm in life. So in some cases I need to take time to help both sides calm down and work on accepting this new reality. Spirits can shift and change and evolve before our eyes in exactly the same way that people do. And sometimes my work becomes helping to support them through that process.
When a message seems very general to me (“Your grandmother loves you, calls you her little sweet one, and wants you to be blissfully happy”) I often can’t imagine what anyone would get from them. Except often the person can feel the energy shift in the room. And the particular words used or cadence of voice may also be the key prompting some to say “the choice of words was what struck me.”
Occasionally messages are SO specific that I am afraid to pass them on because the doubt creeps in, “what if I am wrongly interpreting this, what if it’s not accurate?” If I, regardless of the doubt, put the message out there for people – I often later end up scratching my head in wonder at the way it all works. Offering a detail such as “your husband says he wants you to move to the river and leave this house” – I am often greeted with exclamations of knowing such as: “Yes, I know, he was always pestering me to move to the river, but please tell him I still can’t afford that!”
I believe that talking to spirit is an inborn human ability. That some people have a greater natural ability to do it, just like some people can sing with perfect pitch. I have been told I have the gift of speaking with the dead. I enjoy teaching people who come to me saying they can sense there is more out there than meets the eye. I am not trying to convince anyone to believe. I am simply doing what I do.
